What's the deal with Friar Lawrence?

Friar Lawrence is a character the audience can identify with because he seems to be sitting on the fence and trying to tear it down at the same time. Not belonging to either the Montagues or Capulets, the religious man wants the fighting in Verona to stop. So, when Romeo and Juliet ask for his help, he marries them willingly, because he believes that this union will lead the two fighting families to make amends. Lawrence just seems like a guy who doesn’t agree with all the fighting. That all happens in Act II.
In Act II, however, Lawrence doesn’t seem to care that Romeo has fought and killed Tybalt. In fact, Lawrence consoles the poor killer. He comforts Romeo by saying, “Tybalt would kill thee,/ But thou slewest Tybalt. Thou art happy too”(III.iii.137-8). Lawrence, although a religious man, forgets the First Commandment entirely: “Thou shalt not kill.” Instead, the Friar tells Romeo that it’s okay that Romeo killed Tybalt because Tybalt was going to kill Romeo anyway. Whatever happened to “turn the other cheek” or even Lawrence’s own idea of peace in Verona. I would have expected the Friar to, at the very least, scold Romeo for his carelessness. But the Friar tries to make Romeo get off the floor and stop crying.
I also have another problem with the Friar’s attitude toward this whole Romeo-screwed-everything-up situation. Although, I have said Friar Lawrence is not associated with the any particular feuding clan, he still follows the current society’s attitudes towards women as the weaker sex. When Romeo is being a baby in the Friar’s cell, the Friar scolds him by saying, “Thy tears are womanish,” (III.iii. 110). While Friar Lawrence seems to separate himself from the hatred of the fighting families, he continues to consider women as inferior men, and even questions Romeo’s masculinity just as Romeo’s parents did. To sum up, I don’t think Friar Lawrence is as cool of a guy as he might seem. There’s something fishy about the fact that he doesn’t care that Romeo killed Tybalt, yet he continues to believe these stereotypes about women just like so many other characters, both Montegue and Capulet alike.